"Your time is limited so don't waste it living someone else's life.
Don't be trapped by Dogma which is living with the results of other people's thinking.
Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your inner voice.
And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become."
- Steve Jobs

Monday, October 24, 2005

Sex Ed for 5 year olds???????

Unbelieveable - Government ministers want Sex Education classes for FIVE YEAR OLDS to begin in our schools. They think it's the only way to "curb teenage pregnancies".

What a pile of steaming bollocks, the only way to stop teen pregnancies is to stop our children growing up too fast, to stop bombarding them with sexual images in the form of teen magazines, sexy fashions for young girls, sexy kids TV programmes and presenters, sexy dolls such as "Bratz" that encourage young girls to obsess about their appearance. Argos selling thongs for fucks sake .... and the parents don't seem to be trying to stop all this.

My biggest whinge and one of the root causes of this sexualisation of girls that are far too young to be even thinking about sex, is TEEN MAGAZINES. I saw a copy of "More" magazine once that had a sealed tinfoil booklet on the front titled "Blow Jobs - all you want to know" and it included information on how to do them, techniques, and probably pictures too. Do newsagents police who buys these magazines, do they say to the 10 year old girl "sorry love can't sell it to you"? Of course they don't! So many teen magazines now are making girls obsess about body image, makeup, being sexy, flirting, getting a boyfriend, having sex, and having sex in every possible position and style that is possible. There is rarely anything of substance in any of these magazines to give young girls ambitions in life other than to look pretty and get laid.

Sure, they have the odd paragraph in them about "making a mature choice" about whether to have sex or not, but that is only a whisper amongst the pages of sex toys sex talk blow jobs, flirting and french kissing.

When I was growing up Sky TV and the internet didn't exist, and kids TV was presented by adults, not screaming frantic slang-talking teens showing their midriffs off. TV and advertising and films didn't shove sex in my face 24/7, and nobody wore tshirts with FCUK on them. I went through my early school years being blissfully unaware of blow jobs, STDs, flirting, and french kissing I read JACKIE magazine and wanted a pony, I did my homework and I was madly in love with a boy called Matthew McCoid in the year above me, and I also fancied Dan Aykroyd in "Ghostbusters" (no accounting for taste). I never wore makeup cos I didn't have a clue how to put it on, and my fashion sense left a lot to be desired....When I was 5 a boy at primary school showed me his willy, I just laughed and ran away and wondered what all the fuss was about (darn it I could have sued him for billions for "emotional upset"...)

I remember a one-off sex ed class when I was about 14, it was in the lecture theatre and we tittered and giggled all through it when the teacher talked about condoms and periods. All of us apart from a small group of tarty girls, were untroubled by the pressures of shagging. My mother never sat me down and "had the talk" with me, although she did with my brother, strangely enough. All she said to me was that if I had sex before I was married she'd kill me (I broke that rule but she didn't find out for years!)

A lot of you would say that to be so ignorant about sex in this day and age would be dangerous, and I guess I have to agree - because I wasn't bombarded with sex from all angles, being ignorant about it wasn't as bad back then, it just passed us all by until we were properly grown up.

I progressed through my teenage years a plain frump who attracted no interest from the opposite sex. Some would say "how fucking sad is that" but I don't mind now when I look back - I did my homework, got on with my schooling and now I have a good job with a good wage. Many of the girls in my class who had boyfriends and spent their schooldays daydreaming or crying over them, have fared a lot worse off with their broken marriages and multiple kids by different men and crap jobs.

It seems that there is no way to stop this sexual assault on our teens - no matter how much we talk now about responsibility and thinking things through before sex and always using a condom, it just isn't working, and now these new morals are seeping through into the next generation we are seeing a 12 year old who is the youngest mother of triplets in Europe, while the father of the children is already saying he wants nothing to do with them. It seems that the fundamental instinct that having sex when you are in your teens is wrong, is missing from the new generation. Nobody thinks twice about one night stands now, about screwing a guy you barely know, and doing it WITHOUT protection. Teens aren't mature enough to cope with the emotional explosion of sex and intimacy (no matter how much they pout and say they are), and the results are plain for all to see in our national teenage pregnancy rate.

Giving sex ed classes to five year olds is not the way, they are FAR too young to comprehend anything about sex - they should be reading stories, playing with toys, watching Disney cartoons, and writing to santa, not worrying about whether their first boyfriend will want anal sex after a week of dating.

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